Saturday am - W is lingering in the house as she picks up S10. She asks about my 80+ year old parents (They've been quite ill). I asked her if she wanted to visit - no answer.
Sunday eve. I'm gathering up the boys to visit my folks. I called W and asked her if she'd like to join us - she said Yes. We drove over and picked her up, had a short visit and dropped her back.
Tuesday evening comes I get home to find she has made dinner, baked muffins, bought S10 a few items he needs, bought one or two grocery items for the house. We have safe conversations - nothing personal - very high level. I temp check - still cold.
Something is different with her - 0 expectations on my part.
I'm slowly dialing back my "I can do it without her position". Coach has given me two mandates:
Address her unmet needs
Don't let her get stuck in the victim mentality.
It sounds easier than it is - any ideas?
M:50 W:53 MR:20 D:21 S:17 S:11 BD-Sept 2015 Suspected PA Sept 2015-Confronted W & OM Dec 2015 Actually EA In house Sep:Jan/16-May 2016 W moved out:May 22 2016 OM-Intro Oct/17-On scene July/Aug 2017
