Of course, lets be clear. If this issue with the my W's drinking gets worse, I will have to reassess my plan. But right now, as I sit here and write this and my wife is STILL not home (it's 10:30) I feel like I'm getting more comfortable with the idea of letting go and moving on.
Do I need to spell it out to you, or don't you know why you are the one sitting there with the kids, on her scheduled day (I assume), waiting on her to get there.....so you can leave.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!