Following Rose's advice always works for me. She is wise.
Actions speak louder than words. Do the right thing immediately. If the time and place is right for an apology, then do so but with no expectations that your W will think better of you or forgive you. Do it because you think it is the right thing to do.
Further, if your boundary is NC with the OM does it matter if it happens in the home or elsewhere? W continues to contact OM. Some DR stories say to ignore the OM as he is a symptom and not the cause of your problems. This is what I am doing, but others here say it is insane to ignore. What is right in your situation?
Gordie 40s W 40s M20+ kids 2016 BD W fantasy affair w OM1 I do everything wrong 2017 I start to DB W says TLTL files for D PA w OM2 2018 I do LRT W drops filing and OM2 situation slowly improving
Boundaries are only good when you can control them respectfully. You can only control yourself. I would agree with Rose888. Now for the apology that is something everyone needs to do if they lost their cool over something and know that they took it to far.
First of all an apology is only true if it is sincere. Also even if you say that your reaction was inappropriate that is a form of apology. That is admissions of guilt. Just saying sorry is another. There are five forms of apologies and each person responds different to each one.
You can find a better description of this on this thread.
-- Me: 47 WW: 35 SS: 17 D: 5 T: 7 yrs Engaged: 2 yrs OEA confirmed: August 17 2016 ongoing since April 2016. OEA continues (with occasional breaks) BD2 - W says will visit OM in Jan 18
