I think withdrawal is the only enforcement option you have.
You're right. I've failed at it so far, every time I think I'm ready I get sucked back in.
In reality, I can't stop her from contacting him from within the house, the consequence was that she would have to pay for her contact by using phone data rather than me paying for it, however that doesn't protect me or my boundaries - well, depends whether it actually causes her to think and take this thing outside. I'd guess behaviour to date indicates she won't do that.
OK, should I apologise for reacting in this way and say it was an inappropriate response or should I just reinstate it without saying anything? Or say my reaction was inappropriate without apologising? I'm not very good at this stuff. I don't feel particularly sorry, but I am still angry and upset about it.
-- Me: 47 WW: 35 SS: 17 D: 5 T: 7 yrs Engaged: 2 yrs OEA confirmed: August 17 2016 ongoing since April 2016. OEA continues (with occasional breaks) BD2 - W says will visit OM in Jan 18
