*If I am doing my math correctly, she filed for D 18 months ago, but still hasn't moved it forward.
*You admit that pressuring your W to have sex when she didn't want it is a big issue--so no surprise that you haven't had sex in 18 months. On the other hand, you regularly snuggle in bed.
*She voluntarily broke off her EA when confronted.
*You both voluntarily are going to see a MC.
***We haven't had sex in 1.5 years now (I feel like she's being faithful to him) and I told the coach I want the morning after sex more than the sex, so I can give her all the love I've been holding back on. Bring her breakfast in bed and flowers and do for the things I didn't do for 17 years. He encouraged me to do those things now, don't wait for the sex. This kinda goes against what I've learned here but maybe it's because I'm piecing, I don't know. I'm so confused about this. But I know things are going very badly.***
I agree with your DB coach. I think it's in the book and elsewhere: women want to feel emotionally connected before having sex; men want sex to feel emotionally connected. So, you need to give your W what she wants...FIRST. She's too hurt and emotionally disconnected to give herself to you in that way right now.
Gordie 40s W 40s M20+ kids 2016 BD W fantasy affair w OM1 I do everything wrong 2017 I start to DB W says TLTL files for D PA w OM2 2018 I do LRT W drops filing and OM2 situation slowly improving
