In my opinion, 'going dark' is not 'the solution'. It isnt going to be the thing that causes you W to 'wake up'. In my opinion, going dark is to give you space to figure out what YOU want. To live YOUR life without the need to pursue her.
So, while youre dark, what are you doing that would make her interested if she WERE to pursue you?
I'm increasing my physical fitness. Beyond that I don't know. I just used the rest of the time to have some fun and give myself a breather.
I don't want to be to arrogant but I'm a fully committed family man and husband. If she doesn't want that then she just doesn't want me anymore. I'm not going to change my core desires just to see what happens with her reaction.
Improving your physical fitness is certainly a good thing.
As for the rest, Im not suggesting that you change your core desires. But for me, I know I needed to work on some things that were problematic in my marriage. - I relied too much on my ex for my own sense of worth and happiness - I was impatient with my kids - I was indecisive about fairly significant issues - I complained constantly - often just to have something to talk about - I was lazy about getting things done and so on and so on.
These were things that I looked at myself and wanted to improve for me. Going dark helped to give me the space to work on those to become a better version of me without needing to pursue my ex.
