My WW and the Great Sandi2 Experiment - part 2

[ForGump]

Chris, for my situation ... I think about what behaviors/tendencies are life long vs. recent. If there is substance abuse, is it a life-long tendency, or more recent? If she's a cruel, cold person, is that a part of who she has been all her life? Or is it just her way of coping w/ her confused feelings right now?

I hope, for your case, that your W's drinking is only recent and her coldness is also just recent....