If there is another approach that any of you can suggest, I'm all ears!
Chris73,
I'm sure coach and IC will provide you with some good advice, but I'll tell you what happened in my situation.
Like you, my wife and I were separated in-house. She had the guest bedroom and I kept the master bedroom (although she wanted the master bedroom). My wife (now XW) wanted to move out, but I convinced her to stay until the end of the school year. I was in full pursuit, but I thought I was doing a good job of distancing myself (wrong). After awhile, things became more and more contentious and I finally told her (I didn't ask her) to move out. I gave her one week. She moved out eight days later.
Even though I'd asked my wife to move out, I was still dreading her move-out day. But, completely unexpectedly, after she moved out, I felt so much better and relieved that we were physically separated. In addition, because I'd pushed her out the door, her timetable and her plans were completely disrupted. Prior to that, she'd been in control of everything, but as soon as I told her to leave, she lost a lot of the control she had over me. Or stated differently, I no longer allowed her to control me through anger and fear (i.e. I grew a pair that day). I gained a lot of confidence and self respect because I'd finally stood up to her in a meaningful way.
I'm not recommending pushing your wife out the door, I'm just saying that it's a viable option and it's possible it'll improve your situation.
