I have a question for you about going dark: what is the objective? Do you think your W is gong to wake up from her fantasy relationship?
With your encouragement and others, I have been trying to go dim this week and it definitely causes the W to pursue me.
the goal as I understand it is to flip the distance/pursuit dynamic and then let the W feel any feelings that come up as a result.
I guess the ideal would be that W would realize that she is pursuing me for the reason that she still cares for me. I would hope that it might help her to realize that love is a choice that she can still make and that it is worth making.
Will it actually work out that way? I have no idea but it's not like I have anything better to do at this point. 10 months of love and attention from me sure hasn't changed anything.
I have found it's pretty hard for me to go dark like this. It's the opposite of what I want. I'm just doing it anyway and letting the feelings come and dealing with it. Not sure what this means if anything. pain is supposed to teach us something I guess I just haven't learned that particular lesson yet. HA!
