Gordie: Pulling it all together

[Gordie]

***I can tell you that since my separation and D, I still love my ex.***

Thanks for sharing that. I know I do now, but wonder if/when that will ever change.

***I sense she is still angry and resents me for my actions. She is not willing to let go of the past because she still discusses the past with respect to the kids and how my actions have affected them.***

Why is she still angry? She can't forgive you? She needs to stay angry to justify her decision to cheat and divorce?

***I think every LBS will feel abandoned, betrayed, etc. If the WAS remarries, it's just another dip on the rollercoaster for the LBS. That is why it is key to create your own life and happiness. If they don't find you attractive because they cannot let go of the past, someone else will.***

Create my own life and happiness...I know this is the answer, but it's so hard. I know I'm not alone in this, but I really did think our R was awesome and special...we were our first loves, we built a life together...we had five amazing kids...we made it to twenty years...it's just soul crushing...now I sound delusional.