My WW and the Great Sandi2 Experiment - part 2

[Chris73]

How can you NOT focus on W minute by minute and focus on YOU?

This is the $64,000 (for those of you old enough to get the reference).

And I don't have an answer. I try my best, but in-house separation always leaves me in a position where I'm anticipating every interaction and waiting up when she's out to see how late she gets home. I need to TRULY be separated from her, but neither of us will leave the house. So it seems like the only way out of this limbo is to start talking about divorce.

Yesterday I got an email from a bank that we never use confirming the opening of a new account. I confronted my W last night and she admitted that she opened a new bank account. I politely asked her why she didn't do this without talking to me since we agreed to discuss everything before taking action, but she changed the subject and got all angry about how I changed the settings on my calendar so that she couldn't see all of the events on it. Once again, her anger comes out very quickly and easily, despite how well we got along in Disney. She told me that she had set up a test to see if I was snooping on her and that I had failed the test. I asked for details and she said that it didn't matter.

I got up and told her that I wasn't going to get involved in another argument. We made an "appointment" to sit down and discuss the division of finances on Friday and then she went to visit the neighbor (her partner in crime).

I felt defeated. I had spent most of the afternoon and evening feeling reenergized about continuing the DB techniques. But this just killed it. I just wanted out. This woman is not my wife. Her moods flip at a moment's notice, she lies, and she harbors such resentment toward me that I can't ever envision a day when that will change.

So Friday we will sit down and discuss the next step of our marriage dissolution. I'm hoping that things can be resolved amicably, but that remains to be seen.

One thing I will be pressing her on is to get her drinking under control. She drank every night of the week on vacation. The night we got home she drank an entire bottle of wine by herself. Sunday she admitted to having 3 glasses of wine after work and of course it's safe to assume that last night's visit with the neighbor wasn't a tea party.

I'm really afraid about how this is all going to end...