While my daughters at school I struggle, but as soon as she gets in the car my face lights up.
I know how you feel. Even though I was busy at work, the second I get them it makes the pain go away. It gets a little easier as time goes and one day, you'll be standing strong enough to look back without slipping.
I'm glad that you told them the truth. Never, never lie about that. Never. Even if you have to keep things out, never lie. And never talk bad about the mom.
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It seems like I want an answer from her at the time but then when she gives me the answer I want I can't trust it. Geez.. but I guess I have to continue on like she's telling me the truth if I want to make this work out I n the end.
I did the same exact thing. I asked when my gut was telling me so but without proof, and she vehemently denied. Until the smallest of slip ups that one of my children don't know they caught. And there was the whole deal that the OM's wife sent me. I'm telling you this because they will lie while looking you in the eye. Mine was so good at it and so convincing, that she had me believing I was making stuff up. Now, I don't trust a thing she says. Yours may very well be not having an affair, or did have one, or whatever. Is it important in the grand scheme of things? Not totally, but its just part of the issue.
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She bought some Hockey tickets for this Friday night for the whole family. Should I go? I think she really wants family time. I know she's feeling guilty she's not here for the surgery. My son is not happy with her right now and she knows it.
I'd say go to the hockey game. But go with absolutely not expectations. None. Try to keep your feelings out of it. You saying that she knows your son isn't happy tells me that this "family time" may be nothing more than an attempt to buy favor with them. Maybe it is, maybe it isn't. My ex does the same at times, well not any more. She just buys them sh*t all the time. ALL OF THE TIME.
You are welcome, sir. I try to help - some say my advice isn't with the norm on here, but mine is based on my experiences - as is every one else's. I answer because I know exactly how you feel.
You are doing just fine. Concentrate on the kids. They are your number one. Nothing else.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
