I have had the same revelation for whatever reason. I was not a very tidy individual during our M but once I had my own place I started a transformation, old things out, new in .. my taste my style and over the past few years its just extended. I joke with my brothers about how I used to think she was super anal and tidy but now I am .... totally baffles me.
I too think I held out, no news is good news/ this is HER D type of approach. Nothing wrong with that let her do the heavy lifting. She will not likely all the sudden change her mind, it does take time for them to realize the fantasy is not as wonderful as they have been dreaming it will be
