Sliver of Hope

[NGUChip]

I do have a few other small pieces of evidence but nothing concrete enough as of yet. But the bigger piece of evidence is my gut feeling.

Hi, NGUChip! Sorry you are in the place you are. But you've to a great place with some great people.

Gut feelings are more often correct than not. Like you, I had the smaller bits of evidence, phone records, etc. Getting absolute proof is hard at times, and others they will slip up. Some have gotten a PI, some have put recorders in cars, etc. There are ways if you are willing to go that route - but be forewarned, you may not like what you find. However, some will say its a peace of mind.

Seriously, the feeling drops me. It will be hard to gain some thing concrete because if it became public it would cause a great deal of trouble for them both. I have some other really good evidence as well. I dont feel comfortable posting here.

My biggest fear is loosing her. We have created so many great memories together and shared a huge history together, I find it very hard that she would throw it all away so easily, and I am hurt that she is not willing to fight for our marriage. She basically told me there is a problem, and walked. I am losing my wife, as well as my best friend.

That was my biggest fear. Until I came to the painful realization that mine was already lost and on her own road - something which started long before BD. As with you, mine was also my best friend. By far.

I never thought I'd be able to make it as far as I have. If it weren't for the kids, I wouldn't have anything to do with her, period. It's deteriorated that much. I'm not going to blow smoke and say it will be easy. It will be the hardest thing you do in your life. But, now this time is for you. I know this isn't what you want to hear now, but you need to adopt the mindset of her never have been in your life. Dwelling on the past/memories/etc., is counterproductive and will make it much harder for you to get back on your feet. Ask me how I know.


You got this! Fair winds and following seas, my friend.

I already know its not easy at all. I will say this is the hardest thing I have had to deal with in my life, and I have dealt with some pretty terrible stuff as well. I try to explain my situation to people and the only way I can is by telling them it feels as if she has died, but with death there is no choice, shes making this choice, so in a way it hurts even more, if that makes sense.