Waywards do come back. First step: LET GO

[Stormchaser]

I like this thread.

I really need to start my own thread. Basically I caught my wife in 2/16, almost a year ago. Affair with coworker.

She still works with him. Many forums I've been to recommend her quitting immediately. She admits she should've done that, but her IC and our MC (since fired) said she should stay due to finances and it would show her running away from the issue.

I've dealt with them working together for an entire year. Breaking point a few weeks ago where I demanded she quit. MC started chastising me. I blew up at MC. We got so heated at the MC session that we both agreed it would be a good idea to separate.

Since then, we saw a new MC and he's allowed me to vent properly to W about the work sitch. W has promised to leave once her private business takes off, which should be no more than 6 months. She will quit regardless.

I wanted to tell his wife. Old MC insisted it would be a bad idea. New MC says its definitely something I can do, but need to talk to him first. I kinda see WHY it would be a bad idea, citing PsySara's post above - how its punishing them. My wife is a super-religious woman who said when I first found out, she wanted to end her life. She said she could never handle the fallout from friends and family if everyone knew. Her reputation would be destroyed and any chance of her own business taking off would end.

I admit my faults in all this. Hell, I may have cheated on me if she treated me the way I treated her. We're working our butts off making this work, though. 30 years together is a lot to throw away.

Looking forward to more on this thread.