Pinn It is funny how we seem like the same person. I too went for a long time letting the emotional side run things and not trust my gut. And turns out I can prob just go ahead and trust my gut from now on. I am. It going to tell you the best solution is divorce and be done. I truly don't think that is a solution for anything. Doe my gut instinct trust her? Nope. Do I think she can change? Possible. Will it happen again? Possible.
You stated what you want. You want to be married to her and have a family. So can't give that up just because right now it seems impossible.
You have been at this a long time and you have done some serious work and in all respect had received some great results for yourself and your relationship.
I think in my opinion you may all your cards on the table and tell her everything you want, what you are afraid of, all the trust issues, everything. Finish with you have to leave things in her court. Make sure she is aware you will watch her actions and will know from those what will happen.
I really want this to work. I believe in marriage even though mine is about over from the paperwork side. But that takes both sides wanting it as you know.
In the end you do need to be happy with or without her. That is what I tell people All the time now when they want to talk bad about my situation. She believes she is happy and did what she had to do to get there. [censored] for me and kids but how can I judge it?!!
M 37 W 34
T 12 M 8 D 7 S 4
Need break 4/12/15 W no ring 7/7/15
Separate room 4/12/15 Separate living suggested 8/15 W moved out 11/1/15
