Divorce after all is just a piece of paper. It will solve none of your W's problem, not is it going to solve any of your and it is foolish to think otherwise. I think more than anything else you are looking for a sense of closure and you think a D will provide you with one. Slim chances of that. You got to focus on yourself and do what is best for you. You have to detach and grow and I also feel you got to get angry. You are bottling it in way too much.