Cherry. Getting on with a few bumps

[Surfer]

Cherry.

The guilt for S crying out for him is totally understandable. It please don't. It is not you took the actions he took. He took action. Only he is responsible. Focus on giving your S sufficient love and attention at times when he might be missing your WH - keep him occupied. Keep him close. I felt horrified with some of the concerns my children told me (scared we would split, scared that M may shout, missing mummy etc). They genuinely have fewer of these concerns now and are really quite robust as they are loved and kept occupied and entertained. It's just love and attention. Your S will get a new rhythm and will stop sitting outside WH room. It's so sad that you have to do these things. If it's essential that you do IMHO. My kids wil look back and remember the soothing words and the caring Dad. The man that said it's okay to feel sad and we will all be happier again. The man that took them places to keep them occupied. The man that tickled them until they laughed. Just focus on that part of you, you are doing fine. You WH was broken FOO stuff. Not you. You could never and can never fix him. He has to do it. Remember that. Keep working on you Cherry. You are a ledendary parson and mummy. Don't you forget that.

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