PS- I also think there is another advantage of accepting and being appreciative of a life without belief that a fulfilling relationship is in our future. Not only will we be better off should it not come, I think it makes it MORE likely we will be able to appreciate what we have should we actually form another relationship.
How many of us were miserable in our last marriages? All of us, right? Well? That's again because we had expectations of a relationship that was somehow better than the one we were in, and we just couldn't be happy with what we had, right? We were angry and depressed because how could we not be if our spouse didn't do this, or that?
Sometimes I think that accepting an unfulfilling marriage is a requirement for a good one. The same as I think accepting the possibility of no future marriage the best road for today. It all comes from the same place, which is the serenity to accept what we can't change.
J, thanks for listening. I have a lot of thoughts brewing in my head. It's been hard for me to sort through them all. These are just a few of them. I appreciate you letting me spill them out here and there.
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
