6 months out from ww leaving the house...has been quite a learning experience. Ww is ahead full with om who started in January... "talking"
I am dealing with bouts of anger and resentment at the pace of her new relationship. Know there is nothing I can do about it , just dissapointed in her haste to involve kids , posting crap on social media and parading this guy around at the church we attended. We are still married and everyone knows she was in an affair since she had to step down from a board position. This church is where we were Married and kids baptized. So anyhoo ... Two events really got to me and now I've been labeled bitter and angry .. somewhat justified but when I feel as though I've been wronged .. sorry I'm gonna get mad.. She invited him to church xmas play that my 8yo was in.. then recently she had him come to the ER while 14yp daughter was having episodes that scared us all.
Really trying to move forward and know forgiveness is the key to this but not quite there yet. I do realize that I need to work on myself as no good marriage ends in divorce. Now on the other side she never admits anything was really wrong with her .. I was miserable and made her "feel" a certain way - thought she'd never be happy again and I was the cause- so she looked elsewhere for her "happiness".
My sister who I've come to lean on lately gave me another perspective on things..telling me I would have never left this marriage no matter how bad it was (kids).. so she did youa favor by exiting..( not gracefully though) and left you with no guilt as to it end.. not quite but I don't loose sleep worrying about it so ...
Seems like I'm the only one who is trying to grieve my marriage all others involved just jumped right back into relationships .. I'm friendly with om's wife .. she's in a R too.. so how does this bode for ww and om ? Not a very stable foundation to build a new relationship..
I know this a bunch of rambled on mess but that's my life now..would welcome any comments , observations or knowledge that you guys can spare..
Last edited by job; 01/23/1705:52 AM. Reason: Added links to previous threads
Me:47 XW 43 D15 D10 Together 17 married 15 Bd : Mother's Day 2015 Sep :July 2015 Divorce final October 2016
