Mia - okay, so you could not at this time handle going to the conference with him. Perhaps, a good goal for you is to attend the next conference with him.
While I know you are angry, it is a small sacrifice to make on behalf of your children. How long is the conference, after all? It cannot prossibly be longer than an hour. Ultimately, as adults you need to present a united front at all times.
Honestly, if everyone who is separated or divorced had separate conferences, teachers would do double the work for every student. That's discourteous to the teacher and only makes you both look childish.
The larger point is you've been here one year now. As far as I can tell you are just as angry now as you were then. I am sorry to say that I believe your kids must feel it, too. It's not good for you or your kids.
And one year later, what good has come of this anger?
Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13 BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room" 8/15: H back to MBR 10/15: H back in dorm room 1/18: H files, now divorced
