Gordie: Pulling it all together

[Gordie]

Random updates:

Experiment and monitor results:

Making my W hot beverages in the morning and evening makes her happy and draws her closer to me, even when she is in a bad mood she accepts the act of service.

My W's favorite non sexual physical touch is massage. I stopped massages after BD as it seemed close to initiating sex but decided to experiment on this front. She has been very responsive and welcoming.

Doing more household chores seems to have no affect. No sign of appreciation or closeness no matter how much more I do. Maybe I haven't chosen the right chores or done them to my W's satisfaction. This needs more experimentation.

Detachment:

I've had a hard time from detaching from my W's moods but think I have made some progress. To me, they are like the weather. On days when W is warm and sunny, it is pleasant to be outside. When she is cold and stormy, I prefer to remain indoors. In either case, I can choose to have a good day no matter the weather. This is still a work in progress.