Gordie: Pulling it all together

[Gordie]

Sara, I agree that spouses need to be protective of their health.

The quote that Gordie posted doesn't talk about a spouse that is having sex with someone else. It only mentions a spouse who is estranged or confused.

When I have posted positively about ML with a spouse, it has not been in situations where the spouse is suspected of having a PA.

PsySara and Rose,

I agree re ML when the spouse is not in an active PA, thanks for the thoughts and clarification. In my situation, I don't think my W is but recognize I may be wrong.