The very nature of someone having been deeply affected by their childhood is that ... they themselves are rarely able to see the problem objectively. Your W hiding her past is exactly a part of her problem. A healthier person would have been OK to be open about it, and talk about it, and process it.
I agree wholeheartedly. She doesn't see her actions as being a problem. She doesn't view her actions objectively. She also exhibits sociopathic tendencies. Things should never be held in, especially out of fear or shame. It is what it is, I guess.
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It's kind of like what they say about war, that the truth is the first casualty. In an abusive upbringing, the first casualty is often the ability to deal with problems in a healthy way, that nobody can help you, you are above all help.
Very well put. That last sentence rings so true with her.
And while I do know that can't be a crutch for her actions, yet I'm not surprised. Maybe one day she will be able to find peace.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
