Keep Wearing Wedding Band? [Thread #7]

[Gordie]

What did your DB coach say about your W's proclaimed lack of sexual attraction to you when everything else in your M seems like it is good? Does your W say more than that or just leave it at that?

It's one part of your story that I have no advice or experience. It seems common on these boards that there are people who fall in love and do have sexual attraction to one another...lose it over time (the mating in captivity phenomenon)...

Is it something where you have some influence (ability for one person to change the dynamic)?

*Your emotional connection to one another (including too much familiarity, lack of pursuit/lack of mystery)
*Your personal appearance/hygiene
*Your sexual history/dysfunction
*Your sexual activity (too boring, don't know how to turn her on, too fast, not enough foreplay, too tired/hard with kids around, differences in libido)

Is it something where you have no influence whatsoever?

*Her personal background/history/mental health (as you've indicated)
*Her personal sexual interests/dysfunction (you haven't indicated this issue)

Something else altogether?

I don't mean to pry, but just trying to throw these questions out to you in the hopes that it helps--whether for this R or the next one, so you don't repeat. Ignore all, if it doesn't help.