She's a product of a most f***ed up childhood. I just never knew. How are we, when we don't know someone's hiding stuff?
Jeep, just (slowly) catching up on your posts.
That part about upbringing ... really resonates with me, as it is a big part of my situation.
The very nature of someone having been deeply affected by their childhood is that ... they themselves are rarely able to see the problem objectively. Your W hiding her past is exactly a part of her problem. A healthier person would have been OK to be open about it, and talk about it, and process it.
It's kind of like what they say about war, that the truth is the first casualty. In an abusive upbringing, the first casualty is often the ability to deal with problems in a healthy way, that nobody can help you, you are above all help.
I'm a firm believer in all of us needing help from each other, all of us needing to listen to others who care about us and observe us with more objectivity.
Me: 50, MLC/WW 45 Young kids Nov 2015: BD1 Apr 2016: BD2 Jan 2017: W filed Feb 2017: D final
