Ginger is probably right about your wife. My wife was severely abused as a child, but it was all repressed. However, she did know about some of the more recent events, but I suspect that even some of those more recent memories didn't occur exactly the way she remembers them. In addition, my wife, like yours, had attempted suicide at least once, but it was long before I knew her.
I remember back when we were dating, she'd had a few drinks and she kept telling me that she had too much baggage and that I should run away. I didn't run away. I didn't know the extent of the damage at the time and I was certain that I could help her through anything. Even if I had known the extent of the abuse, I still wouldn't have run away; I was deeply in love with her.
Over the years we learned more about what really happened. It took years of her waking up, scared to death from the nightmares, before she could identify her abusers. She went through pure hell as a child and had to relive it as an adult as the repressed memories bubbled up into her consciousness.
I would've gladly stayed with her the rest of our lives, but she chose a different path. However, the next time someone tells me they have too much baggage, I'll certainly consider the potential for future complications.
