You do have a choice as to whether you discuss the situation concerning the divorce proceedings w/her. If I were in your shoes, I would cut her off very nicely and advise her that you aren't going to be discussing the divorce and where it's at w/her. In other words, she can address these issues w/her lawyer and go from there. Don't allow this woman to take you down into the dark hole w/her. You do have the choice of cutting her off when she's out of control or nasty.
I'm sorry she's acting this way, but she thinks the divorce is going to bring her happiness and it's not...but that's for her to figure out.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
