Love is a decision - my story

[Dawgs]

Seeker, I'm sorry to hear that, my friend. Like you, I initially did the same. And it ate at me - because I had the foolish thinking that if I confronted, it would drive her away even more.

OK, I need some advice here. I am almost positive that my W hooked up with POM2 on Sunday when my kids were out of town. She is keeping it hidden but from all of us and all the signs are there and some mutual friends it is pretty sure. I am tired of playing the nice guy and not confronting her on this. That is not in my character. I never do this. She keeps telling me she is not having sex and not seeing anyone. She just tells me these things with out me even asking her about them. To me it is a sign of guilt. I know she is lying and I keep validating her. But I feel like a door mate now and it is bugging me. Should I stand my ground for my morals or just ignore it? Should I tell her that I do not stand for this?

First and foremost, I suggest getting some proof before confrontation. In the even that she is having another affair, then it will drive them deeper down that rabbit hole. I agree, her telling you those things seems justification like. Just tell her that you won't be in a marriage where she is involved with someone else. And you will have to back it up - are you prepared to pull THAT trigger?

Doesn't matter if she is looking for hookups or a relationship. Truly, it does not. The fact is, she no longer respects you or the marriage. That should be your concern.

2x4 time. You feel like a door mat is because you are being treated like one. Period. I know, because I was there. Before I could pull the mat out, I had to learn and accept a few things. Its not going to be easy, my friend. Stay strong.