Maybe it would be best for my kids if -- after the divorce -- I can carry on w/ my wife as best friends, stopping at all hours to spend time with kids and help with childcare, and she does so vice versa. I think my wife would be OK with that, since she's the one that has lost her romantic feelings for me.

I can't do that.

Me: 50, MLC/WW 45
Young kids
Nov 2015: BD1
Apr 2016: BD2
Jan 2017: W filed
Feb 2017: D final