Keep Wearing Wedding Band? [Thread #7]

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FG, I agree with you. If my W is going to force us to D then I have also don't want to blur the custody line. It seems like it'd be brutal for us to have to deal with them in that type of situation. I'm unsure how you'd be able to establish/maintain a healthy R with someone else while living that way.

I couldn't agree more with you guys that being prepared, no matter how awful it is to do it, is the way to go. Head in the sand is not the solution. I remind myself that no matter how queasy it makes me feel to research stuff like custody, it'd be much worse to be blindsided because I'm not educated on it. Knowledge for us truly is power. It's power over our own emotional swings, as well as keeping us from making emotional choices. Grit your teeth and grind through it. Know what you want so you can respond quickly and confidently.

JR, my W has lobbed out the same anecdotal nonsense about how other "normal" couple friends of ours both deal with divorce and their Ms. W seems to bend what she perceives from these situations to fit her picture of how things should be with us. It's not well thought out and is very maddening at times. I'd hate to see what my Ds and my life looked like if I left it all up to W. I picture a soviet era prison camp in Siberia...

FG, keep moving forward my friend. Arm yourself with knowledge. You know what to do. You'll be ok through this, just keep grinding brother.