Keep Wearing Wedding Band? [Thread #7]

[JRuss]

FG -- it's still very early days for you in terms of the D, but have you given any thought to how you'll schedule your respective custody days?

With 50/50, and a desire for each parent to get the same number of weekends, the 2-2-3, 2-2-5-5 and 7-7 models seem to be the ones most often used. Mine are too old now for the 2-2-3 as much as I'd like it due to not having to go too long not seeing them, but it's 19 transitions a month for them, and that's too much for a tween and (young) teen like I have, who have school, homework, tests, activities, a social life, etc. As much as it'd kill me to do it, I'm not sure a week on, a week off wouldn't be best for the kids because they'd be able to get really settled and relaxed before having to do it all again. Basically I'm struggling with the reality now of really, truly having to think solely in terms of what's best for the kids, even if it will be gut wrenching to go so long in between visits. They both have a lot of activities, though, and like you, I'll be religious about attending, so there will be times I can see them when it's not formally "my" time with them. I tend to think my W will have a lot of times where she can't get out of work, or her social life intrudes, so I'm trying to work a "three hour" rule into the parenting plan, where each of us commits to asking the other if they'd like to have the kids, before they'd otherwise leave them with someone else for more than 3 hours.

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