Keep Wearing Wedding Band? [Thread #7]

[ForGump]

What does moving on mean to you?

I start with the caveat that I know my feelings about things can change over time. So nothing is written in stone. But as I stand here now, I feel certain I cannot allow myself to want my W back after we divorce and she is seeking other relationships. It just hurts too much to continue to consort with her while knowing that's what's going on. For my own mental health I need a clean break. I will try to stay in tune with how I feel, and, at an appropriate time, would like to start dating. Could be months. Could be years. Don't know. I'm not eager to re-marry, but I do feel lonely and miss the warmth of a woman.

With respect to my kids, I expect to amicably agree to a 50-50% custody arrangement. I will do everything within my power to make full use of my 50% custody. I will re-arrange, scale back, whatever I have to do with my work to be able to do that. I will only rely on my W if I have to go out of town for work, and if then, hopefully swap rather than simply cede my time. I will do all I can to be present at my kids' various activities.

I don't want to blur to 50% custody by having my W come over to my home and vice versa. At least not based on how I feel now. I don't want to keep pretending we're an intact family once my W has broken it up. I don't want to keep seeing her. And I want to move on.