It can feel hard not to know what to do for the best when we feel so desperate to hold on to the R. When I saw XH after BD, I could see that he looked kind of pleased that there were two women both wanting to be with him. That and the reading I did at the time convinced me that I needed to take myself out of the mix.

He said that when we met he felt swept away by love for me and wanted to hold my hand. I told him that we would not have any sort of romantic R whilst he was in a R with someone else. I actually haven't seen him since that day and he decided to D me and is still with OW as far as I know. I'm not saying all of this was a fail - because it was good in the main way it should be - for my own sanity and self-respect.

Now I feel if XH and OW want to be together in all those circumstances, and with such an awful start to the R - I wish them best of luck...

Xx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus