Gordie: Pulling it all together

[Gordie]

Also, wanted to post one follow-up item which was discussed with all of you in a prior thread which is how to handle continued physical intimacy during these troubled times? I've been re-reading DR and here's what I found on page 292:

"If your spouse is estranged or even separated and she seems interest in being physical or making love, by all means, go for it! Even if your spouse has said, "I don't love you anymore," don't necessarily believe it (my W has not said that). Don't reject the idea of ML simply because your spouse is confused and trying to figure out whether she should stay in the M or not. She may be wondering if she can ever have feelings of love for you again. Sometimes being sexual reminds people of the love they have for their partners. It is the glue that pulls them together. Take advantage of this opportunity to physically connect if your spouse is willing. Don't push it, but if the occasion arises, don't turn your back on it either. ML may be just what it takes to remind your W that your marriage is worth keeping. It's hard to feel distant when your touching and caressing your life partner. Put your pride aside. Suspend your doubt and insecurity. Let passion connect you and bring back those loving feelings."