Why did Happy Agains's posts make me feel even more guilt? Because I can totally see my WH in his posts, and I see his posts being so full of anger, even hate, because of the hurt he was exposed to. (
I disagree. Let's call a duck a duck. Happy agains actions torwards his wife were full of anger and hate because that's what he was....Angry and hateful.
The things he said to her and the way he treated her was disgusting. NO ONE deserves that. It was meditated and conscious and he admits that. He on,y became remorseful when she lost weight and became beautiful again and stopped trying.
I don't want a partner that only wants me when I'm at my best, because it is impossible to be at your best all the time in life. We age, we get sick, we lose jobs, we perform badly, we lose our tempers... I want a partner that will be as committed as I am. Your ex is not committed. He is a fair weather mate. They don't change.
While my husband never insulted my physical appearance, he did insult everything else and it really, really, really traumatized me. Happy again reminds me of my ex as well. I would rather be raped in the middle of a public street then endure the way my ex treated me. No one in their right minds would ever date their rapist. So why are we fighting to get back with our exes?
