Being new here myself, Moose, I'm just going to repeat what I've read. Do not initiate contact unless absolutely necessary. Be business like but nice in any contact you do have. Do your 180's and figure out how to be the best Moose you can be.
I guess what I've been doing is thinking, IF I actually lose my H and have to get on with my life, how do I want that life to look? If I have to put myself into the dating scene, what would I change about myself to attract attention? Over the years I've become complacent and stopped worrying about attracting WH's attention. That's something I need to change. Maybe it will work, maybe not. But it's going to make me better. Be the man you've always wanted to be.
M:41 H:43 T:26yrs M:19 yrs S:15 D1:14 D2:9 Living together but separated