BTW, she uttered something about "even if we did stay together, it would work for a while then I'd be back feeling the same way." It's the first time she's allowed even a hypothetical possibility of staying together. Of course this sinks hooks of hope into my heart; yet I fight it knowing that she filed. She $#%! filed. There is a set of public documents down at the court house asking for dissolution of marriage, with my name on it, and with a plan for how to split up my kids' times. I meditate on that fact and any hope is gone.
JRuss & LT: weird, our brotherhood. I wish I could have met you in a different way. I wish guys well. Reading and thinking about you guys helped me a lot. Also, I now believe what you guys are saying and have said about feelings, about chemistry: my W and I had incendiary chemistry at one point, and it changed. So it CAN change back.
Gump, I think it's appropriate and right that you have hope. It's not unrealistic and that hope partially motivates your DBing, which you are right to continue. Make it easy for her to come back because you're a calm, confident, happy-within-yourself man. As you always tell me, be great.
I really think that the economic hardship and reality of life is weighing on her. You don't need to remind her, but if there's something that you can stop doing for her to give her independence (and a little struggle) that might bring her some clarity.
