I'm going to go against the grain a bit and say that you should try to go out with other women. You may be a "safe place" for your friend, but if you keep being there whenever she calls, she will always be your friend.
You're right. I've actually backed way off. She will still seek me out at work sometimes though. Sure, we still talk, but not as much as before. The talk is different too....less personal I guess. I'm pretty much just a really good friend to her and nothing more. I've quit going over to her place on Wednesdays for drinks. I told her it was because of her new guy. I said that I didn't think that he would appreciate it. (I know that I wouldn't. if the situation was reversed.) I'm actually fine with things the way they are. I'm in no hurry. As for dating other women, I'm really not even sure if I really want another relationship right now. Sure, I would have dated Lady Friend if that's what naturally progressed, but it didn't and I'm okay with that. I guess the best way to put it is: sure I'm interested, but not looking. Haha.
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Plus it's not fair to the guy she's seeing. If she's opening up to you, she's not doing it to the guy she's seeing which, in turn, isn't fair to his little girl if she's just playing games with him.
You're right about this too which is why I have backed off. Still friends and nothing more. Just not as close friends I guess because like I said, we talk, but not as much and the talk we do have isn't as personal.
Again, thanks for checking in.
Tad
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