Keep Wearing Wedding Band? [Thread #7]

[ForGump]

Matrix--

Thanks for your encouragement. I agree w/ much of what you wrote.

I think I gave a mistaken impression of where I am. I have accepted the gravity of my situation. But I have not given up.

Admiral Stockdale said,

"You must never confuse faith that you will prevail in the end—which you can never afford to lose—with the discipline to confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be."

I accept that my wife filed. I accept that she is likely to have me served. But I choose to keep doing what I think is right in my heart. I'll keep working on detaching while being warm. I'll keep getting a life. I'll just keep working on being a better Dad, a better person. I hope to keep doing that, even if this marriage may end.

My current reality feels brutal to me. But I hold on to some hope. Not unrealistic hope. Realistic hope.

Once the divorce is completed, though, I won't hang on to hope for reconciliation. I plan on moving on.