The Fab 5 and Dad

[J5K]

Dawn,

Thank you for the support! I am still hopeful that one day XW and I will reconnect, but that is probably a year or two down the road, maybe more.

Painter,

So nice to hear from you! I am in a better place except with XW. I still have those feelings of walking on eggshells sometimes when we talk briefly on the phone.

Since XW and I are basically NC, there are limited boundaries in place. It is clear she still doesn't respect me. I keep conversations short and sweet on my side and only discuss the boys, if she starts to go off on a tangent I politely dismiss myself from the conversation and hang up. This infuriates her more and then she starts to text and spew more.

Today my L drafted a letter to XW's L with very specific incidents that happened over the last week and a half. Without going into details, my L stated we would file for sole custody if XW doesn't start to be more cordial with me.

Correct, there was no emergency and she did not want to speak to the boys, she wanted to dictate things to continue to make me feel bad and try and overwhelm me with stress and anxiety.

Most of the time I do answer the phone. I do not answer when we are driving and I am en-route to pick up the little ones from daycare. There have been multiple times though where she says she will call at a certain time and never calls at all that day.

Anyway, trying to be as upbeat as I can when we talk, but I still struggle internally.

I will look into the SPARC website! Thank you for the info!

Hope all is well with you!