FightOn - In my own case about 6 months after starting her affair my STBX was very much on top of the world believing that everyone loved her and supported her. I was treated with a fair amount of disgust and scorn.
This turned on a dime after I wrote her a letter begging her to reconcile she became depressed which was the theme for the next month that we were under the same roof. I don't know for sure how she did after she moved out but reports were that she was struggling and unhappy. I have no clue if my letter was the catalyst or reality or something else with respect to her mood shift. I do know that watching her face when she read my letter that I was able to see her mood shift to gloom and depressions.
On BD H52, W50 T27, M26 S21, D23 BD-9-Mar-16 D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18 I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good. But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells
