Thank you Job! Your response makes sense, in a MLC kinda way. Lol!
I would like to ask you two more questions. The first one relates to a conversation on HaWho and Altair's thread that has recently come up regarding the MLC and the six month high they feel after BD or divorce. It seems pretty consistent among MLC'ers. Is this consistent with your experience? What can you tell me about it?
Also, I have another situation for which I need some guidance. I have a standing appointment with my IC for a certain day of the week at certain time. H knows this. Every other week he has this day off so he is always willing to watch S on those days. On the days he does work, he has told me that he is willing to leave work early so I can go to my appointment. However, there have been a couple of instances where he has been late and I have missed my appointment.
I have recently come to realize that H is passive aggressive. I believe this lateness is a form of it. I also believe he may be attempting to force a confrontation by making me angry about missing the appointments. This is likely his way to force a conversation about D. (Since BD whenever we have a disagreement he has brings up D and how frustrated he is that we haven't discussed any of the details.)
While part of me would like to have a discussion with him about his being late, I fear it will escalate and he will bring up D. I have been thinking that the better way forward is to either just go to counseling every other week, or to ask my parents to come one day a week and watch S while I go to my appointment. By going my parent route, I think I can more easily minimize any disagreements as there will be nothing to disagree about. It is something I can simply do without any need for his input or help.
With what I am learning about MLC and passive aggressive behaviors, I am thinking I should ask my parents to watch S and leave the issue alone. What are your thoughts? And of course, if anyone else has any thoughts, please, please chime in.
