Is there room for a chair more?

[Painter]

Time for a little update:

I have heard nothing from WH. I have not been served, so there is no movement in the D proceedings that I know of. I am pretty sure that he is not ready to move forward with his committment to OW and is using our M as a buffer. She wants to get M and he told me before that he's not in any hurry to remarry.

In my own life, I'm experiencing great growth. I'm changing my relationship behaviors in what feels like profound ways, and it's so empowering and effective. This wasn't possible in my M because I didn't have a partner who felt he had a responsibility to contribute to the R outside bringing home a paycheck.

But I'm so happy that I went through the DB program because I can use these principles to develop a great R with someone who understands that it takes two people making an effort every day, and who approached the R with an attitude that made me challenge myself.

I have made a conscious decision to not focus on negative feelings (that are certain to occur) or doubts and fears, but instead feed the R with positive initiatives and be the change I want to see. I'm a detail oriented person who can get stuck on small stuff, and I've just decided I'm not going to take offense unless it's something really major, and instead meet it with the behavior I would like to see. I've seen amazing results within days.

I guess I'm trying to say that even if DB didn't save your M, it can have a profound impact on your future Rs. Wishing my dear friends here all the best!