Love is a decision - my story

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I did read DR and have a list of goals. Over that past couple of weeks I have made the smaller and changed them a bit because of what I read from Sandi2.

1. For her to call me more. - Which she has done but that probably is more do to the financial sitch.

2. For her to open up more on the phone about herself and ask more questions about what is going on in my life. - That there I have also noticed more on her opening up more on the phone because I am doing a lot of validating and empathizing with her. She still has not asked much about what is going on in my life.

3. For her to forgive me. - That I am waiting on timing. As I have mentioned before I have already extended the olive branch.

4. For her to want to spend time with me. - Again that is timing and until she loose interest in finding POM2 then she will not want to do that plus with a closed spirit she has to get to a point that she does not feel anger when she looks at me.

5. For her to respect and trust me. - Again time takes time so does proof that I am changed. I am on the right track for this but how long this will take is up to her.

6. For me to detach and give a impression that I have moved on. - I have detached and am giving an impression that I have my own life and only have a few minor things left to work on.

7. For me to continue learning and GAL so no mater what happens I will be prepared for the future. Hope for the best and plan for the worst.

If anyone has some suggestions or feed back on these goals please let me know. PLEASE!!!

You will probably get a lot of 2x4's for this list, but that is OK. Everything on this list (except maybe the last 2) are wishes, they are not goals. I had a lot a trouble with this as well when I wrote out my goals. Keep working at it and try and define each goal as it pertains to YOU. Almost all of your goals start out with "for her to". Do you see the difference?