LT, just a random thought and observation. As I read other threads, including my own, I've noticed our Wives or Husbands make an appearance, as in, we catch a glimpse of the kind caring spouse they were, (yes they're crazy) but nonetheless they make an appearance. With you, I've noticed your W hasn't. Not sure it means anything, just an observation. I guess I cant picture your W as a W or a kind person.
When is she moving? If she's adamant about 90/10 custody wouldn't she have to move away for that to "happen"?
You are extremely patient and strong for still continuing to be there. You've done a great job!