Gordie: Pulling it all together

[Zues126]

G, not trying to be the 2x4 guy. Just know if I don't go on about my respect for you as a person, my sympathy for what you're going through, and patting you on the back for the good you've done, well, that's all implied. I wouldn't be posting if I didn't think all of this was the case.

I talked about what not to do, but didn't talk much about what TO do. Kent is right on.

One question I think is a crucial compass is "What would I do if I knew 100% that my M was never going to be saved?" If you take away the desire to show WAS your changes, to try to steer her back to the M, or to try to do whatever you can to save the M...what's left?

This doesn't mean you should see other people or let her have it with angry words because you don't care anymore. That's not the person you want to be. But who would you want to be?

Start thinking about the answer to this question, and let this guide you every day. It may seem strange because you want to save your M, not give up on it, but giving up on it and moving forward on your own is the best thing you can do for you regardless of how she responds and what the future holds.