Completely change of events started last weekend . Wife started texting Saturday afternoon. At first I ignored it as it was about the cruise we have booked then she started asking if I'm seeing someone, if I still loved her, want do I want, etc. I kept my responses short and did not directly answer her. Just said I'm content with HER decision and I'm not going to prevent it. She started calling at that point and she was crying when I answered. She begged to come over which I said was not a good idea since she is divorcing me and that I had plans. I received 4 missed calls that night. She has continued to ask the same questions up to today. She thinks I have been with another woman!!! That part made me mad as she knows me better than that.
My counselor advices not to see her at this point as it will give her control again. I'm worried that she is just feeling sad and doesn't really want to really come back but use me to make herself feel better. After some thought, I came to a decision that I'm not sure what I want. I finally text her saying that, and I would be willing to meet under the following conditions. First we agree to see a counselor. Second, she must revoke the divorce papers. I feel like that is fair and would prove that she is serious and not $&@@ing with my head again. So far her response is she wants to see me and talk first.
I'm at a loss of what to do at this point?? My counselor and friends are telling me to hold my ground and she will do what I'm asking if she's serious.
I really need some advice as I did not see this coming at this point. I have prepared for the divorce and I am supposed to meet with my attorney this week
Controlling behavior. Talk no actions.
I wish you hadn't even said what you did. If she has something to say to you, then she can say it.
Did she tell you she was calling off the D? Did she tell you she made a mistake? Did she apologize for her behavior? Did she ask for counseling?
NO!
All she did was ask you some questions about your life and you filled in the blanks with what YOU wanted to hear.
Look, I went through the EXACT same thing. Read my thread from 8/28/14-9/6/14. My XW asked the same questions. I found out the hard way what it meant:
