I don't think it was her negotiating her come back either, but it was a controlling condition or term she used. I just wanted to mention it early so you were aware and could notice others.

Best wishes

R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together