I have no words of counsel for you as you are way, way ahead of me in this process. I'm just sending you my thoughts and prayers in the hopes that you are able to move forward in a way that is good for both of you.
One thing that struck me: you told her "that we can get through it together if we are both willing to put in the work..." Amen!
Gordie 40s W 40s M20+ kids 2016 BD W fantasy affair w OM1 I do everything wrong 2017 I start to DB W says TLTL files for D PA w OM2 2018 I do LRT W drops filing and OM2 situation slowly improving